A Worm Tale

wormI believe there’s a genetic component to empathy. Certainly it can be learned or suppressed, but it seems there’s an inborn disposition as well. Especially when it comes to animals.

My mother and I are both overly empathetic, to the point that it can be crippling. My natural reaction when an animal is in pain is to retreat, which is counterproductive. I have to pretend I’m in control, force myself to be of some use. It’s extremely difficult.

My poor mother had it worse. I’m not sure she ever recovered when my little brother shot the itsy-bitsy spider right in the middle of the rhyme.

My ex-husband, on the other hand, was from a long line of farmers. Sheer hard-headed pragmatism when it came to animals. It was easier for them when it came to making hard decisions, especially if the animal was in any way a pest.

As a new mother, I didn’t want to hear that my daughter clearly favored my husband’s family. It made me feel like a broodmare, a mere carrier for other, more important genes. But as Rebecca grew, it became obvious that she didn’t favor me.

Not that she wasn’t a delight. But the clashes between one mindset and another took some mental adjustment.

When Rebecca was two, she saw both sets of grandmothers on a regular basis. My mother-in-law spent time with Rebecca gardening. My mother read her story books. It was quite a shock to Mom when Rebecca plucked a book from her hand, threw it on the floor, and started stomping on the face of poor Sammy the snail. Her other grandmother had taught her that snails were for stepping on.

Possibly as a result of all the farming talk, when she was three Rebecca decided she wanted to raise worms. Okay, that seemed easy enough, and harmless, too. I was overwhelmed with managing my baby son and my preschooler, but even I could find time and energy for that. I mean, really, what did it take? A pot in the backyard. We combed through and removed worms periodically to add them to the garden. Rebecca would stroke them gently with a fingertip before releasing them into the soft soil surrounding our passion vines, snapdragons, and marigolds. She’d make up little stories about them, even laboriously writing some down. They were weak on conflict, but what do worms have to be afraid of? Nobody in our family fished. We never saw robins in our southern California backyard.

They didn’t seem like much of a pet to me, since I gravitate to cats or dogs. But Rebecca was happy with them, and that was the main thing.

One day, I nursed my son and put him down for a nap. When I came out of the bedroom, Rebecca’s hands were dirty.

I braced myself. “What have you been doing, Becca?”

She smiled. “I played with my worms.”

I flicked a glance through the sliding glass windows into the backyard. The worm pot was still standing. As I washed her hands, I said, “Remember you have to be very careful with them. You’re a lot bigger than they are.”

Rebecca tossed her long blonde hair. “I know, Mom. All I did was hug them.”

Well, that sounded okay. Really, I’d gotten off easy. In the past, unsupervised play had resulted in broken knickknacks, artistic endeavors on my walls, and an entire bottle of shampoo dumped on the bathroom floor. I think I mopped the bathroom at least twenty times before the suds gave up.

Still, I was cautious. “All right, honey, but you still need to be careful. You’re strong enough to hug your little worms in half.” I didn’t want her crying, consumed with guilt because she’d inadvertently killed one of her beloved worms.

Rebecca’s blue eyes met mine. “Oh, that’s already happened.”

I took a deep breath. What to do? I didn’t want her to weep, but I didn’t want her turning into some horrible worm apocalypse either.

This must have shown on my face because Rebecca took my hand and said, “Don’t worry, Mom–it’s okay. Both halves still wiggle.”

Avid writer and reader, especially of fantasy. Learning about social networking and always interested in honing my writing skills. Contact me at cathleentownsend.com.

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18 comments on “A Worm Tale
  1. milliethom says:

    Lovley post Cathleen. It brought back memories of when my six were young and their different attitudes to small creatures – and large ones, come to that. Their attitudes stemmed from different sides of the family, too.

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  2. christinadrh says:

    All the more to love! I enjoyed this Cathleen. I empathized with cleaning shampoo off the floor. Ugh! I think the key would be not to use water, just every dry towel in the house.

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  3. I don’t like wiggly worms but this story is endearing and your daughter is made of a ‘sturdy’ farm girl quality?
    Like to hear what she does when she is a teenager. What new venture will she be interested in then? ❀ ❀ ❀

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  4. LOL Both halves still wiggle! πŸ˜€ haha

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  5. Love the last line. The things that children say. πŸ™‚

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  6. blondeusk says:

    I agree with Tess, I want to know the teenage side to her. Loved the last line πŸ™‚

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  7. Carrie Ann says:

    Great story…made me smile…except the cleaning the shampoo part, lol.

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  8. Candice says:

    πŸ™‚ this is so different from the other glorious stories I’ve read of yours but it was equally enthralling!

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  9. Two wiggly worms instead of one!! Lovely memoir Cathleen. πŸ™‚

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  10. Both halves wiggle still alive, haha. Cute. πŸ™‚ I wonder what she’ll grow up to be?

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  11. This brought back so many memories of gardening with my daughter when she was little. She would put together worm families in the grass. Unfortunately, many of them didn’t fare well.

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  12. marktemplar says:

    This is brilliant, loved it!

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